Ladies, make no mistake, you are NOT alone in facing the devastating pain and trauma caused by male porn addiction.
The addicts, the enablers, the gaslighting, the constant "just deal with it, you prude" shaming culture, the widespread sociopathy, and the total lack of support for women who are victimized by porn addiction continues unabated.
Below, a lovely young woman confesses to her crushing heartbreak and emotional isolation in being traumatized by a porn addicted man who was vetted by her own family.
Notice the CONSTANT gaslighting, which was the entire theme in their relationship. Blaming her "craziness," her body, her "not being able to hang" with him openly lusting after other women, and his inability to perform (doesn't matter what she or any other woman looks like because a porn addict can't perform sexually with ANY woman, period).
Now cue the endorsing on the part of his own family. Who deemed him a saint and tacitly sided with him and enabled his porn addiction by sticking their heads in the sand. Easier to pretend he's a do-gooder that can do no harm than face the fact that he's a psychopathic, porn-addicted pervert!
She dismissed the red flags and ignored her intuition. She even gaslit herself (as do countless numbers of women facing porn addiction in the man they love) saying, "Maybe it's not so bad. Both our parents see the good in him so maybe I should see the good in him too. I'll just play along. They know better than I do."
Many women find themselves in this precarious and destructive predicament as well. Pressure and social shaming from family and friends can feel so damning, isolating and lonely, especially for us women as we are naturally very trusting and never want to inconvenience or burden the people we love.
I'm not sure if this beautiful young woman ever had the chance to tell her story to anyone, especially anyone who would care or bother to listen. Because, as we all know, male porn addiction is a silent epidemic that's traumatizing millions of women around the world. Women are shattered and left to pick up the pieces without any support, nor any seeming care or concern.
We will be silent no longer.
We will continue to expose this pestilence at every turn.
We will be lurking around every corner shedding a blinding light on how porn addiction in men harms women.
We will remain steadfast in being empowered with the knowledge to help other women realize they are not alone. That there are answers. That they are seen, heard, acknowledged and loved.
Please follow @chellthelight on Instagram along with our other beautiful and outspoken colleague @rewildcarlyrose (both their stories have been shared on our community page here). Alana and I will be attending a women's online group on March 30th (more details will be released soon) where we will be speaking with women from around the world who have been traumatized by porn addiction in men.
Love,
Jenny
