As you may have noticed, I have completely revamped this website to get back to the central purpose of why I began doing this work and that is to help women spot porn addiction in men.
Thus, helping women recognize all the signs of porn addiction will be my entire focus. Spotting porn addiction in men will be the basis of all the content emanating from this website along with any other media and information I will be publishing elsewhere in the future.
In all my research over the years, I've discovered the main issue for women in dealing with porn addiction in men is how to spot the signs because:
- They want to avoid men who watch porn at all costs because they have had very negative and traumatic experiences in their relationships due to porn addiction.
- They want to be able to screen men for this problem so they can leave and move on and find other men to date who don't watch porn.
- They want to better understand the troubling behavior in the men they deal with who are addicts while allowing themselves to not be shamed, gaslighted or manipulated.
- They need answers to these questions. How can I know if he has a porn addiction? How can I really know for sure? What do I need to look for?
And below, you will find the #1 thing you can do starting right now to spot porn addiction in men:
Be Vigilant
You should always have a healthy amount of skepticism with any new man you meet or may be involved with in vetting him for porn addiction.
This doesn't mean painting all men with a broad brush believing they are all porn addicts or that it's impossible to find a normal guy who doesn't watch porn (there's a lot of men who don't watch it but you will not find them if you waste your time and emotional resources on porn addicts).
Instead, you must learn to be vigilant and take a man's behavior and all the signs of porn addiction at face value. When you begin to spot the virtually endless barrage of signs I will be exposing on this site (and I do mean endless, this is not an exaggeration), you will be able to recognize porn addiction in any man you meet.
You will then be able to make wise and informed decisions on when to exit a relationship based on clear evidence of porn addiction. You being vigilant is to be armed with knowledge, NOT paranoia and distrust towards all men believing they are all addicts (they aren't).
Listen to Your Intuition
By far the biggest tool in your arsenal is to listen to your intuition in dealing with an addict. Our gut is always giving us signals that something is off.
On the few other sites and forums (this really isn't discussed by women anywhere except for Reddit) I read where women are facing relentless uphill battles in their relationships with porn addicts, they are always confessing to having an inkling or a sick feeling inside their gut that something's afoul and amiss–that many choose to ignore to their own detriment.
Women have inborn intuitive instincts that protect us from danger. And being in a relationship with a man who is a porn addict is a very precarious and dangerous situation to be in for any woman.
Unfortunately, many women dismiss their intuition in picking up on these signs. They face a lot of inner and outside pressure to ignore and downplay porn addiction in men. "All men watch porn so maybe I'm the one who needs to stop being so paranoid," is just one example of how women are conditioned to ignore their intuition and inevitably, the disastrous signs of porn addiction.
Porn addiction is a very serious problem, especially for women who are dealing with the sexual, emotional and psychological abuse being inflicted on them by porn addicts in relationships. My job is to help you spot the signs, avoid the abuse and to feel empowered in leaving an addict behind to avoid the trauma and heartache.
Your intuition is key. Use it and allow it to guide you. It will better help you in spotting and recognizing the signs.
Always Take Red Flags Seriously
As with all of the above, you have to learn to take red flags seriously in recognizing the signs of porn addiction.
For example, say you're on a first date with a man and he tells you that porn is no big deal. He may even insinuate that you're a prude and you're the one with the problem if you believe it's a big deal.
This is a HUGE red flag. This is porn addiction staring you in the face. And unfortunately, this outward display of the addict being open about his porn use is not as common as the lying that is more standard. Addicts lie and cover it up far more than they will ever confess or take responsibility for their addiction (you will learn all about the lying and deception through my information).
Thus, when you see a clear red flag, you must take it seriously. This is evidence you are dealing with a porn addict. Don't downplay it, don't dismiss it and don't call yourself paranoid or crazy. He's a porn addict and it's better that you accept it and take a more proactive approach in deciding how you want to address it in your choice to leave.
I trust that this information will help you first and foremost spot porn addiction in men and give you the tools you need to feel confident, empowered and knowledgeable so that you may avoid porn-addicted men.
Be sure to comment below and share your experiences. Did you ever ignore your intuition? Did you not heed the red flags? Why or why not?
Love,
Jenny
