This week I ran across not one but two posts on r/loveafterporn that demonstrate clear evidence that porn-addicted men in committed relationships with women develop proclivities towards seeking out gay sex with men.
The first is entitled "He Cheated With a Man" [NSFW warning and edited for spelling and grammar]:
We went out to a birthday dinner, I left at 9. He went on a drinking and drugging binge, stayed at a random house and f*cked a male bar tender from a busy pub in our area. People have recorded him saying to the bartender if he takes him home, that he will f*ck him. He did. Didn't turn up home til 5 pm the next day. I've left for our holiday without him. I'm shattered. Heart broken. I'm truly so in love with this narcissistic, alcoholic, who just cheated on me. I'm f*cking crushed.
And sadly, the woman was being shamed and gaslit for being a "subpar" woman who so utterly failed at existing that she pushed the addict to be gay and seek out men:
"Honestly, I feel like I don't even want to live in my own area anymore. He was photographed and videoed hitting on men, going home with one, having his penis out at a pub. I know it should be his shame, but somehow I feel it's embarrassing for me too.
How bad of a partner must she be, that he wants a man? How stupid is this girl at looking after their child, etc.
The woman is being not only being blamed for a man's porn addiction but people are shaming and gaslighting her claiming she isn't a good enough parent to their child either! Anything but blame the ADDICT himself!
The next post is called "Gay porn/chats"
He has told me there’s no gay porn. I saw it in the history in 2019. He claims that might have been his ex-wife. On his Kik there’s chats with other men. He claims they are bots. That he never has spoken to a man. A lot of these men are clearly from the place we last lived. Is he lying? It is so hard to know what to believe. I don’t know what to do or if I should press on this. He says he is straight.
Some commenters add:
"I’m sorry.. I don’t believe anything they say really. I noticed a week ago that my husband started searching for men. I’m still sick over it and having a really hard time understanding what is going on."
"There are no bots on kik and if there are now, there definitely wasn’t in 2019. AI wasn’t prevalent then… and even so he would’ve been writing back and engaging whether they’re human or not, does that really matter?
You’ve seen the evidence. Don’t let him gaslight you."
It continues to remain unclear to society at large at this point in time that porn addiction in men is steering them on a path towards destruction. And it's ruining the lives of women who get involved with these pornsick, careless and dangerous men.
The best thing a woman can do at the first sign of porn addiction in a man is to leave him. Long before he possibly winds up gay.
Love,
Jenny
