This week over at r/loveafterporn, a woman discovered her porn addict fiance was watching porn within an hour of buying her an engagement ring:
"If that’s not a sign I don’t know what is… All this happened while I was at work too.
It hurts to have to leave someone that you care about deeply. I’m one of those people who would tell myself “he’s perfect in every way except this one thing!” But yeah, I’m just glad I don’t live with him/have kids/any attachment other than my feelings…."
Another woman comments, "Same thing happened to me. I literally have the screenshot of 'thank you for your purchase' for my engagement ring on safari and right above it was onlyfans links. It hurts."
And yet another, "This happened to me as well. I'm so sorry, I will never understand why but its better to save yourself now and now you know what you don’t want in your next chapter of life."
3 women in total under one post said their porn addict fiances watched smut the very same day they proposed.
The gaslighting, shaming, and enabling porn-watchers among us would insist there's nothing in the world wrong with any of this.
"So what? He's marrying her! He proposed! Obviously watching porn doesn't mean a thing!"
"Let him enjoy himself! It's not hurting anything! He's probably stressed from the engagement and needed a release!"
"He's a guy. We ALL watch porn! Yes, even when we're buying engagement rings! What's the big deal?"
